Healing After a Breakup With Acceptance, Surrender and Faith

Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru
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“When the heart weeps for what is lost, the spirit laughs for what it has found.” ~Sufi Aphorism
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There are three key components to healthy healing after a breakup: acceptance, surrender, and faith.

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Acceptance: Acceptance that what was, was, but is no more; acceptance of the breakup; and acceptance of failure. The past is in the past; the relationship is over, the relationship failed for one reason or another (and sometimes for no reason that is evident at all). Accept it and be done with it.

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Surrender: Surrender yourself to tomorrow. Surrender yourself to a new day, a new way, and the possibility of a future that is different from the one that you had ‘imagined’.

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Faith: The faith to step into a new life. Faith that you will be okay, no matter what, and faith that everything happens for a reason, and that sometimes that reason isn’t evident for months/years to come.

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~~ Today I will find acceptance in the fact that my relationship is over. It has passed. Today I set it free. What was was; what is is; and what will be will be.

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Today I surrender myself to the possibility of a future different than the one I had planned. Today I surrender myself to let life take me where it may.

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Just for today I have faith that there may be other — yet better — plans that await me. I have faith that I will be okay, no matter what, and I have faith that life holds the promise of beautiful things for me if I would just allow it to happen and stop fighting it. Just for today I let go with faith. ~~

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“Faith is daring the soul to go beyond what the eyes can see.” ~William Newton Clark

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“If you believe, it will happen.” ~Common Saying

Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru

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Regaining Your Life After a Break Up

By Tigress Luv, the Break Up Guru

“Apparently there is nothing that cannot happen today.” ~Mark Twain

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What if we could put one day, one 24-hour period, in a box and save it to spend at some future time down the road – when our lives and everything in them were perfect? How many days would we box up and save? How many days would you, yourself, box up to save? But what if our lives really are perfect right now?

Instead of regaining your life after a break up, have you been stuck reliving the past – day after day after day? How many days have we wasted lately, grieving over some loss in our lives when it really is not going to change anything anyway? The only thing the grief is doing is stealing our precious days from us, one 24-hour period at a time.

Today we light just one candle – and that one candle is for us and us alone. We will not light it for anybody else but us. Today we will let the light of goodness and faith into our day, guiding us with its warming glow and caring for us in its positive way.

Today we will take this 24-hour period and use it, enjoy it, and be thankful for it. It is part of the gift of life and we shall not waste it, nor abuse it, nor let it pass us by without enjoying it.Today we start on that journey, one day at a time, to regaining a life after a break up.

~~ Today I will light one candle, and that one candle is for me. Today I will take this 24-hour period and enjoy every minute of it. I will not waste this gift of today by grieving over my yesterday, or worrying about my tomorrow.

Just for today I will make ‘me’ matter most. Just for today I will be grateful for this day, and for the ability to let everything else go just so that I may enjoy this day. It is my duty to enjoy it, it is my blessing to have it, and it will be my will to use it in a positive way. Just for today I light a candle for me. ~~

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“One today is worth two tomorrows.” ~Benjamin Franklin

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“Don’t worry about who you lost in your yesterdays or who you may be with in your tomorrows, but, instead, worry about who you are today.” ~Tigress Luv

By Tigress Luv, the Break Up Guru

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